2 weeks into my first real wlw breakup. We were together over 3 years, I thought we were building a life together, then everything fell apart quickly over 1 month. I know we arent right for each other, I know splitting up was the right choice. So why does it hurt so much? And why am I so scared about the future?
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I appreciate your kind words so very much.
Hi there. I went through the same thing in August and can relate a ton. The first few weeks were strange as I tried to stop checking for her texts, planning dinner for the two of us. My brain kept remembering how it felt to be held by her and it felt like not having that comfort was nearly unbearable in some moments. Yet my inner voice was soft but persistent in knowing that leaving was not only the right thing, it was me taking care of myself, first, and breaking out of old patterns so I took time to be proud of myself.
I also had and have fears about the future. I was worried about being old and alone. I think that it’s normal to feel afraid when we can’t envision what is down the road and if we will have anyone to be there with us. Melisa and Alli’s examples of community building have actually been super helpful. I’ve joined hobby groups, spiritual practice with others, and I planned an exciting getaway to come up to Seattle and hangout with everyone this upcoming weekend for the live show.
Put your hand on your heart or give yourself a hug. You’re going to be okay.