I think I need to come out... again.
I'm 45 years old, a single mom to an amazing little girl, and I've recently come to a realization that has honestly surprised the hell out of me.
I think I need to come out again.
Which is crazy because I came out when I was 18!
I spent my 20s and early 30s dating women. I had several long-term relationships, including one that lasted almost ten years. My family was mostly accepting, and my partners were welcomed into our lives. My girlfriend of nearly ten years was practically part of the family. She and my sister were incredibly close, and my parents loved her.
When that relationship ended, I was devastated. I genuinely thought I would never find another woman like her.
Eventually, I started dating a man. It was a short relationship, but out of it came the greatest gift of my life: my daughter. And for that,…
Hi Shellbe, Thank you for your post! I don't have the same experience as you, but we have similarities for sure - I live on the same property in my parents in Georgia as I'm helping to take care of them as they age. I'm grateful my dog and I have a separate space, so that we can all live independently and it sounds like you are in the same boat. I am looking to connect with others who are realizing later in life that we are not attracted to most men (Pedro Pascal is an exception for me :)
I was married to a man, but left my marriage 2 1/2 years ago for reasons unrelated to my sexuality. I have come out as queer to my sister because I kept telling her I don't know what I am and she said "why do you need a label?" so it's wonderful that at least one person in my family knows. Even though they are very liberal, I get the sense the the rest of my family (especially my mom) would prefer not to know I'm not straight -- though may suspect just based on my demeanor when others suggest dating men!
If you'd ever like to connect, I would love to find friends going through similar experiences.