coming out stories.

Hey y'all!

I’ve been a wallflower in this community for a hot minute, and it feels like time to finally join the conversation and share my coming-out story.

My closet exit had a “No shit, Sherlock!” vibe. That bright rainbow of writing had covered the wall for years. I just happened to keep my eyes fixed on the ground in front of me all the time with the bill of my Braves baseball cap blocking my view.

I mean, hell, I bought a red Subaru and named her Xena Warrior Princess two months to the day before I came out to myself. And a few months earlier, I took a man I was trying to date to an Indigo Girls show, with the (unfortunately straight) sisters of Larkin Poe as the opener. Later that night, when he caught a glimpse of my TomboyX boxer briefs, I declared, “I promise I’m not a lesbian!”

Lesbian Chronicles LIVE! Join us at the Reverie Ballroom in Seattle, WA on October 18, 2025 at 7:00 PM for an evening of empowerment, laughs, and shared experiences. Hosts Alli and Melisa will share stories, answer questions, and keep us entertained all night!

Whether you're in the middle of navigating your own sexuality journey or just want to be in community with other queer women, this event is for you. Let's laugh, cry, and celebrate together.

In addition to the event on Saturday, we've created optional events on Friday if you'd like more chances to meet new people!

AGENDA

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 18

I wrote this a year ago and as I sat and thought tonight what PRIDE month means to me it is so much more than parades and drag shows and flags flying high. It is the acknowledgment of pain and sacrifice of countless queer individuals. It is a declaration of freedom and acceptance of oneself even if that means disownment by others. PRIDE is the life saving breath that filled my emptiness when I was told I was disowned, undeserving, dead and damned. We celebrate PRIDE in June, but it’s the story of how I came to have and experience my own PRIDE that I carry with me always.

I hesitate to share…the story needs work, there are many gaps that still need filled and it’s unpolished. But it’s raw and it’s real and it MY PRIDE

June 2020

It’s PRIDE month; June. It wasn’t too long ago that …

For the past few months I feel like I am in some sort of post coming out cocoon period where I have just been through so much emotional trauma -admitting to myself that I am gay (I’ve always known but actually allowing myself to be in that knowledge ) taking the steps to come out as gay to myself to my husband, my friends and family, then my first true agonizing heartbreak (shattering and life altering to say the least ) followed by a series of some fortunate some unfortunate dating experiences…all of these things in such a short period of time had left me cracked wide open and shattered …and now I am cocooned in emotional numbness…

Honestly it’s fine… the cocoon

The numbness

I’m comfortable with it

I kind of needed to not feel for awhile

I am very comfortable being alone