Did I wait too long? Are my “good” years behind me? Sometimes I wonder if I should’ve come out earlier. BEFORE two failed marriages in heteroworld, back when I had no fear when it came to dating.
Never would’ve thought, coming out in my 40s, it would be this difficult to find my people/my person. Is it because I live in a small town and the closest area that has gay/lesbian areas are 45 minutes away or is it because I’m older and don’t hang out in bars anymore? There’s online dating but I’m finding a lot of the women just want a hook up. I’m too old for that. Am I the only one that wonders if they waited too long to come out and their “good” years are behind them??
No you did not. I started my slow coming out at age 57 also.....61 now. Never felt so at ease with myself.
You’re not the only one
I relate! I came out at 45 (am 53 now) and wasn't ready to try dating until recently. I no longer drink (so bars aren't appealing), and have been less than encouraged by the online dating scene so far. That said, I've had queer friends tell me to keep trying "the apps" - including different ones - as it can take a while. Sorry, I wish I could offer more. Just wanted to say that nope, you are not alone!